When You’re Grieving After a Miscarriage: What Miscarriage Counseling Can Do for You
If you’re reading this, chances are you’re carrying a kind of grief that doesn’t always get talked about. The kind that shows up in waves. Quiet. Heavy. Invisible to most people around you.
You might feel broken. You might be blaming yourself. You might not know who to talk to or how to even begin. You’re expected to go to work, smile, move on—but inside, everything feels different.
Miscarriage hurts in so many ways. And you don’t have to carry it alone.
What Is Miscarriage Counseling?
Miscarriage counseling is therapy designed to support your emotional and mental health after pregnancy loss.
It’s a place to:
Talk honestly about your grief
Understand and process what happened
Explore your feelings without judgment
Feel less alone
Start to heal in your own time
Some people come to counseling with deep sadness. Others feel guilt, anger, confusion, or even numbness. All of that is normal. There’s no “right” way to grieve.
In miscarriage counseling, we slow things down. We make space for your story. We talk about what you’ve been through, what you need right now, and what you hope for moving forward.
How Can Therapy After Pregnancy Loss Help?
Therapy after miscarriage isn’t about “fixing” you—because you are not broken. It’s about:
Lowering emotional pain and overwhelm
Making sense of what you’re feeling
Learning tools to manage anxiety, depression, or guilt
Helping you reconnect with your body and yourself
Supporting your identity and your relationship if you're trying again (or unsure if you want to)
Over time, counseling can help you feel more grounded, more understood, and more like yourself again.
What If My Partner and I Are Grieving Differently?
This is one of the most common struggles after miscarriage. One person may want to talk constantly. The other might shut down. One might be ready to try again. The other might feel scared to even think about it.
Couples counseling can help you:
Understand each other’s grief styles
Communicate in ways that feel safer and more supportive
Rebuild emotional closeness
Grieve together, even if you grieve differently
Grief can create distance—or it can create deeper connection, with the right support.
You Are Not Alone, and This Is Not Your Fault
Let’s say this out loud: Miscarriage is not your fault.
You didn’t do anything wrong. You’re not being punished. Your body is not the enemy. But it’s okay if you feel that way. That’s why miscarriage counseling exists—to gently help you untangle the pain, the shame, and the silence.
As a therapist who specializes in reproductive mental health, I work with women and couples facing miscarriage, IVF, and other fertility challenges. I believe everyone deserves safe, compassionate support around their reproductive experiences.
I’m also pro-choice and firmly believe miscarriage care should be accessible, legal, and free from judgment. Sometimes, a miscarriage involves medical care, medication, or procedures that people shouldn’t have to fight for—especially when they’re already grieving.
You Deserve Support That Meets You Where You Are
If you're in Providence, Boston, Tacoma, or anywhere in Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut or Washington, I offer virtual miscarriage counseling.
Whether you're newly grieving, unsure how to explain miscarriage to your partner, or feeling stuck after a past loss—I’m here.
Let’s talk. Let’s lower the suffering. Let’s help you feel like yourself again—gently, at your pace.
👉 Click here to schedule an appointment
You don’t have to figure this out on your own.
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