The Power of Telling Your Story: Expressing, Connecting, and Healing Through Infertility

Let’s be honest…

Boston isn’t always the easiest place to open up. We’re known for our brains, our hustle, and keeping things close to the chest. For many of my clients, that makes infertility feel even more isolating.

You might wonder: “If I tell people what I’m going through, am I oversharing? Will I make others uncomfortable?”

Here’s the truth: connection heals, and your story matters.

What “oversharing” really means

When people talk about “oversharing,” what they often mean is, “I let someone see a part of me I usually keep hidden.” That can feel scary, because sharing makes you vulnerable. But keeping everything bottled up can be just as painful.

Oversharing isn’t about saying too much. It’s about your fear of being judged—or not having control over the response.

How therapy can help

Working with a reproductive counselor gives you space to sort through what feels safe to share and what’s private just for you. Together, we can:

  • Set healthy boundaries so you feel grounded when opening up.

  • Practice how to talk about infertility with friends, coworkers, or family—especially in buttoned-up Boston circles.

  • Build confidence so your words come out clear and calm instead of anxious or rushed.

Sharing reduces shame

Shame thrives in silence. When you speak your truth, even in small ways, it loosens shame’s grip.

Maybe that’s telling a friend, “Actually, we’ve been going through IVF and it’s been really tough.” Or maybe it’s opening up to a coworker about why you’ve had so many appointments lately.

The more you share in ways that feel right for you, the more you remind yourself that infertility is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Reframe it: self-advocacy, not oversharing

Think of it this way: you’re not oversharing—you’re advocating for yourself. Sharing your journey isn’t about burdening others. It’s about giving people a chance to see your reality, support you, and walk with you.

Healing together

Boston might be full of sharp edges, but it’s also full of people who care deeply once you let them in. Telling your story creates bridges. It invites connection. And sometimes, it even inspires others to share their struggles too.

Let’s Connect

If you’re navigating the emotional minefield of infertility in Boston, therapy can help you figure out when, how, and why to share your story. As a reproductive therapist who understands IVF, donor conception, and all the layers in between, I’d be honored to walk with you through it.

Learn more about infertility counseling in Boston →

Jessica Katz, LICSW, PMH-C, CCFP

Jessica Katz, LICSW, PMH-C, CCFP is a licensed clinical social worker with over a decade of experience in reproductive mental health.  As the founder of Empress Counseling, she supports individuals and families facing infertility, pregnancy loss, perinatal mood disorders, and third-party reproduction.

http://empresscounseling.com
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